Yes With Joy

“Success is in the offering” sounds like a biblical term, possibly one dealing with money. But for me, it is more than just a phrase.  It is a feeling.

A while ago, a teacher explained to me that it is enough to offer words of wisdom and encouragement in my coaching.  That is success.  If the client takes and uses the information, that is up to them.

Underneath it, I understood her, and even agreed.  However, it wasn’t until an event occurred in my own life that I really got how powerful it is to give without worrying about if the person accepts it.

You see, my son (who was 12 at the time) broke two fingers during wrestling practice.  Being in a lot of pain, he didn’t sleep well for the first two nights.  This meant that I didn’t either.  We would sleep and then wake up as the pain increased.  To get him to return to dreamland, I would “run energy” into his hand.  He would relax and fall back to sleep.  “Running the energy” continued throughout the days and nights.

Eventually, he would just take my hands and place them around his broken fingers.  It was a silent connection, but still very powerful.  But I was growing weary – or at least I thought I should be.  However, in reality I was calm and peaceful.  I’d even noticed that a minor headache that had started during the night was gone by the morning.  I was feeling great. (True confession: I was tired and foggy, but I was also energized because I could feel the peace and calm…and I didn’t have a headache, not even the monthly hormonal one.)

This made sense once I realized that running energy is the same as sending love.  The more love I was giving out, the better I felt.  I was offering of myself and not worrying about if it was doing what it was supposed to do.  I was offering my son’s hand love.  He chose to accept it.  But the part that is amazing is how good it made me feel.  Yes, success is in the offering.

Valentine’s Day is a day of love. Usually, people think of loving their kids or that special someone. But what if that special someone was you? What if you took this day to truly love everything about yourself?

I challenge you to spend an hour today looking at yourself in the mirror and thinking about all the things you love about yourself. To make this even stronger, write down what you are saying so that you can remind yourself later what you love about yourself.

Too often we get caught up in judgment, which is usually negative. The more negative we think and feel, the worse we feel about ourselves. And the worse we feel about ourselves, the worse we do in life. The trick is to input more positive comments than negative ones, and since we have a lifetime of negative comments, we have some catching up to do. So, spend sometime today loving yourself.

And then follow it up with a positive action…something that will demonstrate to the universe that you really do love yourself.

Update:  I did this exercise myself today and do you know what?  It shifted my energy and I feel even better than I did when I woke up.  All I did was recognize what was already there.  Now to put it in action…I think a nice walk is in order.  Or maybe something silly like putting on lipstick and kissing the mirror so that whenever I look in the mirror and see all those kisses, I’m reminded that I love me.  Just thinking about this makes me giggle.

Travel days can be challenging if you choose them to be. Or things can work out. One day last spring, I could have moaned and groaned about everything, but I just kept silently repeating, “It always works out for me. I don’t have to know how. It just does.” And it did. Here is how the travel experience went:

When I got to the airport, the computer said that I’d already checked in. “It always works out for me. I don’t have to know how. It just does.” It took the lady at the counter 30 plus minutes to straighten it out. I just stood there and radiated love. (Ok. I did a little bit of Matrix too.) Read the rest of this entry »